Tucker and law partner Rita Bank at the offices of Feldesman, Tucker, Leifer, Fidell & Bank. Two-thirds of the D.C. firm's partners are women. who you are and what's important. It's hard because this town is very seductive." But if a person wants the rush and changes I have seen," she says. "It's wonderful. How many people see that kind of change in a lifetime?" power of working for the president, she says, the price is always clear: "You can't say you can't meet with the pres- THE SMARTEST WOMAN MARNA TUCKER EVER KNEW WAS ident of Abu Dhabi because you're going to the farm with your kids this weekend." her mother. She was an unusual woman, very large, over- weight and deeply insecure. So insecure that she went Her blunt advice: "You can't have it all." Yet the woman does seem to have it all, seem to have through periods of her life when she would rarely leave the house and would refuse to talk on the phone. But with her chieved the goal that has eluded SO many modern women: She has a career, status, wealth, idealism and a happy home, children, Elizabeth Tucker was a witty and doting mom. Years later, Tucker's younger sister. Debi, would watch husband and kids. She is a blend of old and new ways, making "Roseanne" on TV and see in that character her mother's the story of her life simultaneously a reminder of how poorly wry, irreverent and caustic humor. For entertainment, Mom women were treated only two decades ago and a celebration of remarkable progress. read constantly, a book a day. She knew something about everything. She was fascinated with English history, especial- "It's wonderful to be the age I am now and to see the ly the life of Queen Elizabeth I. continued on þage 18 JANUARY 24. 1993 11